The Glass of Water

A professor began his class by holding up a glass with some water in it. He held it up for all to see, and asked the students: “How much do you think this glass weighs?”

’50 ml!’….. ’100 ml!’ …..’125 ml’, guessed the students.

“I really don’t know unless I weigh it,” said the professor, “but, my question is:What would happen if I held it up like this for a few minutes?"

And he stretched out his hand, holding the glass, up over his head.

‘Nothing.’ the students said.
 
‘Ok, what would happen if I held it up like this for an hour?’ the professor asked.
 
‘Your arm would begin to ache’ said one of the student.
 
“You’re right, now what would happen if I held it for a day?”
 
“Your arm could go numb; you could have severe muscle stress and paralysis, and you may have to go to hospital.” Ventured another student, as the rest of the class laughed.
 
“Very good! But during all this, did the weight of the glass change?” Asked the professor.
 
‘No.' was the answer.
 
“Then what caused the arm ache and the muscle stress?”
 
The students were puzzled.
 
“What should I do now to come out of pain?” asked professor again.
 
“Put the glass down!” said one of the students.
 
“Exactly!” said the professor.

Life’s problems are like that cup of water, each a drop in your cup.
 
Hold it for a few minutes in your head and they seem all right, bearable. But carry them long enough in your mind and they begin to ache, and then to injure.
 
Hold it even longer and they begin to paralyze you. You will not be able to do anything, to move on or solve other problems.
 
It’s important to think of the challenges or problems in your life, But even more important is to know that it's ok to put them down for a while and only think of them here and there, or at the end of every day before you go to sleep.
 
This is the way to reduce stress, to go through your day with more energy in your veins, because the problems you carry around drag you back and slows you down. When you let yourself  be more free, you can handle any issue, any challenge that comes your way.

So remember...
 
When you start your day today, Remember to put that glass down. It'll be there, just where you left it, but you don't have to carry it around all day. You really don't.

Excellent One

11 Tips to Improve Self Confidence

Here are some quick tips to improve your Self Confidence. If we are committed to have a healthy self confidence there are many things you can do every day to boost your self confidence, each small steps that will help you to reach your goal. The good news is that self-esteem is not fixed and can be improved, try some of the steps below to boost your confidence and self-esteem.

1) Identify your successes. Everyone is good at something, so discover the things at which you excel, then focus on your talents. Give yourself permission to take pride in them. Give yourself credit for your successes. Inferiority is a state of mind in which you've declared yourself a victim. Do not allow yourself to be victimized.

2) Look in the mirror and smile. Studies surrounding what's called the "facial feedback theory" suggest that the expressions on your face can actually encourage your brain to register certain emotions. So by looking in the mirror and smiling every day, you might feel happier with yourself and more confident in the long run.

3) Exercise and eat healthy. Exercise raises adrenaline and makes one feel happier and healthier. It is certainly an easy and effective way to boost your self-confidence.

4) Turn feelings of envy or jealousy into a desire to achieve. Stop wanting what others have just because they have it; seek things simply because you want them, whether anybody else has them or not.

5) When you're feeling superbly insecure, write down a list of things that are good about you. Then read the list back. You'd be surprised at what you can come up with.

6) Don't be afraid to push yourself a bit - a little bit of pressure can actually show just how good you are!

7) You can try taking a martial arts or fitness class/course (or both). This will help build confidence and strength. Invest in some new clothing and donate some of your old clothing to send a message to yourself that you both look sharp and feel sharp.

8) Try to make yourself talk positively at all times. When you hear yourself saying you can't do something, stop and say you can. Unless you try, you will never know whether you are able to or not.

9) Don't get wrapped up in your mistakes and dwell on bad points; they can contrast your good points or even give you something to improve. There's no feeling like being good at something you were really bad at.

10) Don't confuse what you have with who you are. People degrade their self worth when comparing possessions.

11) Surround yourself with nurturing friends, not overly critical individuals who make you feel inadequate or insecure. This could do great harm and damage to your self confidence.

Always remember "There is hair line crack between success and failure" Be sure to push yourself a bit, who knows that bit may lead you to success.

Some Tips To Make It Happen

• To solve a problem or to reach your goal, you don't need to know all the answers in advance.

• But you must have a clear idea of the problem or the goal you want to reach.

• All you have to do is know where you're going.

• The answers will come to you of their own accord.

• Don't procrastinate when faced with a big difficult problem, break the problem into parts, and handle one part at a time. Remember, the Impossible can always be broken down in to possibilities.

• If you can get up the courage to begin, you have the courage to succeed.

• It's the job you never start that takes the longest to finish.

• Don't worry about what lies dimly at a distance, but do what lies clearly ahead.

• Your biggest opportunity is where you are right now.

• When you begin you are half done.

Good Luck - Bad Luck

There is a Chinese story of a farmer who used an old horse to till his fields. One day, the horse escaped into the hills and when the farmer's neighbors sympathized with the old man over his bad luck, the farmer replied, "Bad luck? Good luck? Who knows?" A week later, the horse returned with a herd of horses from the hills and this time the neighbors congratulated the farmer on his good luck. His reply was, "Good luck? Bad luck? Who knows?"

Then, when the farmer's son was attempting to tame one of the wild horses, he fell off its back and broke his leg. Everyone thought this very bad luck. Not the farmer, whose only reaction was, "Bad luck? Good luck? Who knows?"

Some weeks later, the army marched into the village and conscripted every able-bodied youth they found there. When they saw the farmer's son with his broken leg, they let him off. Now was that good luck or bad luck?

Who knows?

Everything that seems on the surface to be an evil may be a good in disguise. And everything that seems good on the surface may really be an evil. So we are wise when we leave it to God to decide what is good fortune and what misfortune, and thank him that all things turn out for good with those who love him.

The Man In Trouble

A man was caught and thrown into a pit (A big hole on earth) of about "40 feet" deep, just because he was a stranger. He struggled trying to get out of the pit,but the more he tried, the weaker his muscles became. He said to himself, "I don't know how to get myself out of this. Maybe I should just die instead of enduring these miserable struggles and pains."

Just then, he heard a voice screaming, "Help! Help!! Help!!!" The shouts were coming from another pit, which was 10 feet more deeper than the one he was in.

He thought to himself, "Wow, so there is somebody else like me trapped here too". Listening carefully, he heard some cracking and sand dropping from the wall of the pit of the other victim. Immediately he summed up his courage and with his last bit of strength, started crawling little by little until he made it out of his pit.

MORAL:

That pain you think you are passing through, there are people worst off than you. Always say something sweet to yourself. Always smile at your pains. Let them be; they are just there for a while and also to challenge you. Today may be your darkest hour, but your joy will come in the morning. Try to encourage yourself. Look at yourself in the mirror, beat your chest and say, "I can make it and I can stand the test of time."

*Always try to face your worst fear because nothing GOOD comes easy. You must be UNCOMFORTABLE to get to your COMFORT ZONE.

Give Others Their Happiness

Once a group of 50 people was attending a seminar.

Suddenly the speaker stopped and started giving each one a balloon. Each one was asked to write his/her name on it using a marker pen. Then all the balloons were collected and put in another room.

Now these delegates were let in that room and asked to find the balloon which had their name written, within 5 minutes. Everyone was frantically searching for their name, colliding with each-other, pushing around others and there was utter chaos.

At the end of 5 minutes no one could find their own balloon.

Now each one was asked to randomly collect a balloon and give it to the the person whose name was written on it.

Within minutes everyone had their own balloon.

The speaker began--- Exactly this is happening in our lives. Everyone is frantically looking for happiness all around, not knowing where it is.

Our happiness lies in the happiness of other people. Give them their happiness, you will get your own happiness.

And this is the purpose of human life.

Is this not what you are looking for?