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11 Tips to Improve Self Confidence

Here are some quick tips to improve your Self Confidence. If we are committed to have a healthy self confidence there are many things you can do every day to boost your self confidence, each small steps that will help you to reach your goal. The good news is that self-esteem is not fixed and can be improved, try some of the steps below to boost your confidence and self-esteem.

1) Identify your successes. Everyone is good at something, so discover the things at which you excel, then focus on your talents. Give yourself permission to take pride in them. Give yourself credit for your successes. Inferiority is a state of mind in which you've declared yourself a victim. Do not allow yourself to be victimized.

2) Look in the mirror and smile. Studies surrounding what's called the "facial feedback theory" suggest that the expressions on your face can actually encourage your brain to register certain emotions. So by looking in the mirror and smiling every day, you might feel happier with yourself and more confident in the long run.

3) Exercise and eat healthy. Exercise raises adrenaline and makes one feel happier and healthier. It is certainly an easy and effective way to boost your self-confidence.

4) Turn feelings of envy or jealousy into a desire to achieve. Stop wanting what others have just because they have it; seek things simply because you want them, whether anybody else has them or not.

5) When you're feeling superbly insecure, write down a list of things that are good about you. Then read the list back. You'd be surprised at what you can come up with.

6) Don't be afraid to push yourself a bit - a little bit of pressure can actually show just how good you are!

7) You can try taking a martial arts or fitness class/course (or both). This will help build confidence and strength. Invest in some new clothing and donate some of your old clothing to send a message to yourself that you both look sharp and feel sharp.

8) Try to make yourself talk positively at all times. When you hear yourself saying you can't do something, stop and say you can. Unless you try, you will never know whether you are able to or not.

9) Don't get wrapped up in your mistakes and dwell on bad points; they can contrast your good points or even give you something to improve. There's no feeling like being good at something you were really bad at.

10) Don't confuse what you have with who you are. People degrade their self worth when comparing possessions.

11) Surround yourself with nurturing friends, not overly critical individuals who make you feel inadequate or insecure. This could do great harm and damage to your self confidence.

Always remember "There is hair line crack between success and failure" Be sure to push yourself a bit, who knows that bit may lead you to success.

Balance Sheet of Life

The happiness of life is made of little things - a smile, a hug, a moment of shared laughter

It’s not the wealth you amass but what you give to others & the lives you touch that you take with you for eternity!

Our Birth is our Opening Balance!
Our Death is our Closing Balance!
Our Prejudiced Views are our Liabilities

Our Creative Ideas are our Assets
Heart is our Current Asset
Soul is our Fixed Asset

Brain is our Fixed Deposit
Thinking is our Current Account
Achievements are our Capital

Character & Morals, our Stock-in-Trade
Friends are our General Reserves
Values & Behaviour are our Goodwill

Patience is our Interest Earned
Love is our Dividend
Children are our Bonus Issues
Education is Brands / Patents
Knowledge is our Investment
Experience is our Premium Account
The Aim is to Tally the Balance Sheet Accurately.
The Goal is to get the Best Presented Accounts Award.
Some very Good and Very bad things ....

The most destructive habit...............Worry
The greatest Joy......................Giving
The greatest loss.................Loss of self-respect
The most satisfying work..........Helping others
The ugliest personality trait...Selfishness
The most endangered species...Dedicated leaders 

Our greatest natural resource...............Our youth
The greatest 'shot in the arm'..........Encouragement
The greatest problem to overcome..................Fear 
The most effective sleeping pill........Peace of mind
The most crippling failure disease..............Excuses
The most powerful force in life..................Love
The most dangerous pariah...................A gossiper
The world's most  incredible computer........The brain
The worst thing to be without.................... Hope
The deadliest weapon........................The tongue
The two most power-filled words................'I Can'
The greatest asset...............................Faith
The most worthless emotion...................Self-pity
The most beautiful attire.......................SMILE!
The most prized possession.................Integrity
The most powerful channel of communication.....Prayer
The most contagious spirit.................Enthusiasm

The most important thing in life...........GOD

What to Focus on for Success

When there is a negative situation that you cannot change,

Focus your thoughts and energy elsewhere.

When there is a pain that will not go away, Overwhelm it with an even greater amount of joy.

It serves no useful purpose to get mired in despair over things you cannot control.

It makes much more sense to do the very best,  to achieve the very most, With those things you do control.

You can choose where to focus your energy and attention.
Focus on those areas where you can have a powerful positive impact.

Yes, it can be easy to get caught up in the negativity of the moment.
Yet it also can be surprisingly easy to shift your focus toward the positive, Productive things you can do.

You are never obligated to be miserable. If you really want to contribute to life, Set your sights on the value you're able to create.

Don't despair over the darkness that is beyond your control.
Instead, shine your own light so brightly that the darkness is overwhelmed.

Do You Judge People Fairly?

Once upon a time, three blind kids who have never heard of an elephant, were taken near to the elephant. First kid who touched the elephant from the tail commented that elephant is hairy and thin. Second kid who touched the elephant from legs concluded that elephant is very fat and unmovable thing. Third kid who touched the elephant from the trunk said that elephant is a curvy moving object. Do you think any of the kid said the right thing? Do you think that instant comments by any kid was a right approach? Do you think you behave just like blind kids, that is, giving instantaneous conclusive comments about people instead of judging them properly. In fact, sometimes you behave worst than that. You associate things with people which are never supposed to be concluded in that way. Sometimes you do character assassination of people and put their respect on stake. Isn't it unfair? So how to judge people? Here are some points to be considered:

1- Be positive. Even if you notice any negative thing about someone. Don't conclude about it. There is a chance your brain is thinking against the reality. Don't let your brain cook bad curry. Explore the negative observation extensively but avoid spying on someone. Be straight and be upfront.

2- Physical appearance is not everything. Don't judge people by their looks. A person in normal clothes and in a normal vehicle might be better than a person in brand new Mercedes or BMW. On the contrary, a rich man can also be equally a great person.

3- When judging people look for the Ethical richness such as honesty, truthfulness, simplicity, behavior, friendliness, down-to-earth attitude etc.

4- A fly will always sit on the dirty and rotten part of the tomato. Never do this in your life. Every person has good and bad habits. Look at the positive side of things. If you feel something wrong, talk about it but don't spread negative info about someone. Hate the bad habit, not the person.

Judging a person does not define who they are it defines who you are !!!

What you can do with Now

Even when the day gets off to a bad start you can still give it a good ending. Just because you have been unproductive doesn't mean you have to stay that way.

Look back at the opportunities you've missed just long enough to give yourself a little inspiration. Then look ahead to the opportunities that you now can fulfill.

What's important now is what you can do with now. This is the first moment of a more effective, more productive, more purposeful you.

The delays, setbacks and disappointments are over. It is now time to leave the excuses behind as you move persistently ahead.

Sit still for a moment and absorb the amazing energy of opportunity that is now yours. Then stand up and get busy making meaningful use of all that opportunity.

What you can do with now is whatever you choose. Choose the best, and find real joy in lifting your whole world higher.

Being Positive

You cannot instantly change the situation by being positive about it. What you can instantly change is your perspective, and that will give you an enormous advantage.

Even when there's no good justification for being positive, be positive. Because it is always far superior to the alternative, and gives you maximum power and effectiveness.

Being positive is a choice you can make that will connect you to the best possibilities. Being positive forces you to also be positively creative.

When things are difficult, do you really want to make them even more difficult by being negative? Choose instead to realistically see the situation for what it is, and then to be positive about moving forward from it.

Eventually, somebody is going to change things for the better, and it might as well be you. Think and see and do from a positive perspective and create good, meaningful value.

By being positive you are being powerful, useful, thankful, compassionate, sincere and highly effective. Make the choice to be positive, and truly make the world a better place.

LIFE IS BEAUTIFUL

Quotes to Inspire you for Life

Excellence is to do a common thing in an uncommon way

Booker T. Washington

 

A total commitment is paramount to reaching the ultimate in performance

Tom Flores

 

Excellence is not an exception, it is a prevailing attitude

Colin L. Powell

 

Any man's life will be filled with constant and unexpected encouragement

if he makes up his mind to do his level best each day

Booker T. Washington

 

What we hope ever to do with ease,

we must learn first to do with diligence

Samuel Johnson

 

Be great in act, as you have been in thought

William Shakespeare

 

Striving for excellence motivates you; striving for perfection is demoralizing

Harriet Braiker

 

It takes less time to do things right than to explain why you did it wrong

Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

 

Champions keep playing until they get it right

Billie Jean King

 

The will to win, the desire to succeed,

the urge to reach your full potential...these are the keys

that will unlock the door to personal excellence

Eddie Robinson

 

The starting point of all achievement is desire

Napoleon Hill

 

Excellence is an art won by training and habitation.

We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then is not an act but a habit .

Aristotle

 

Always seek to excel yourself. Put yourself in competition with yourself each day.

Each morning look back upon your work of yesterday and then try to beat it .

Charles M. Sheldon

 

Don't be afraid to give your best to what seemingly are small jobs.

Every time you conquer one it makes you that much stronger.

If you do the little jobs well, the big ones tend to take care of themselves .

Dale Carnegie

 

The quality of a person's life is in direct proportion to their commitment

to excellence, regardless of their chosen field of endeavour

Vincent Lombardi 

3 Keys to enjoy life

Keep your Dreams Alive

Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not;
remember that what you now have was once among the things
you only hoped for.
Epicurus

 

Dream as if you'll live forever, live as if you'll die today.
James Dean

 

You see things; and you say, 'Why?'
But I dream things that never were;
and I say, 'Why not?'
George Bernard Shaw

 

Keep your dreams alive.
 Understand to achieve anything requires faith
and belief in yourself, vision, hard work, determination,
 and dedication.
Remember all things are possible for those who believe.
Gail Devers

 

Life is full of beauty. Notice it. Notice the bumble bee, the small child,
and the smiling faces. Smell the rain, and feel the wind.
Live your life to the fullest potential, and fight for your dreams.
Ashley Smith

 

A dreamer is one who can only find his way by moonlight,
and his punishment is that he sees the dawn before the rest of the world.
Oscar Wilde

 

The best thing about dreams is that fleeting moment, 

when you are between asleep and awake,
when you don't know the difference between reality and fantasy,
when for just that one moment you feel with your entire soul
that the dream is reality, and it really happened.
Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

 

Really great people make you feel that you, too, can become great.
Mark Twain

 

Be careful what you wear to bed at night, you never know
who you'll meet in your dreams.
Tom Bradley

 

Dreams are illustrations... from the book your soul is writing about you.
Marsha Norman

 

There are some people who live in a dream world, and there are some who
 face reality; and then there are those who turn one into the other.
Douglas H. Everett

 

Don't be pushed by your problems. Be led by your dreams.
Calvin & Hobbes

 

Dreams are today's answers to tomorrow's questions.
Edgar Cayce

 

Better never to have met you in my dream than to wake
and reach for hands that are not there.
C.S. Lewis

 

She laughs at my dreams, but I dream about her laughter.
The Click Five

 

Somewhere over the rainbow, skies are blue, and the dreams
that you dare to dream really do come true
Lyman Frank Baum

 

Whatever you do, or dream you can, begin it.
Boldness has genius and power and magic in it.
Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

 

Flatter me, and I may not believe you.
Criticize me, and I may not like you.
Ignore me, and I may not forgive you.
Encourage me, and I will not forget you.
Love me and I may be forced to love you.
William Arthur Ward

 

Staying up all night is a waste of sleeping, and a waste of sleeping is a
waste of dreaming, and dreaming is important because the more
dreams you have, the better chance you have of one coming true.
Tony Arata

 

All men dream: but not equally.
Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds
wake in the day to find that it was vanity:
but the dreamers of the day are dangerous men,
for they may act their dreams with open eyes, to make it possible.
T.E. Lawrence

 

You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep because
reality is finally better than your dreams.
Dr. Seuss

 

When your dreams turn to dust, vacuum
Julia Cameron

 

Follow your dreams, for as you dream you shall become.
Mary Manin Morrissey

 

Life is never easy for those who dream.
Robert James Waller

 

To dream anything that you want to dream.
That's the beauty of the human mind.
To do anything that you want to do.
That is the strength of the human will.
To trust yourself to test your limits.
That is the courage to succeed.
Bernard Edmonds

WHO I AM - MAKES A DIFFERENCE (Presentation)

The Art of Giving - Everyone Must Know

The Art of Giving

"Rivers do not drink their own water, nor do tree eat their own fruit, nor do rain clouds eat the grains reared by them. The wealth of the noble is used solely for the benefit of others!

Even after accepting that giving is good and that one must learn to give, several questions need to be answered.


The first question is:
When should one give?
We all know the famous incident from Mahabharat.
Yudhisthir asks a beggar seeking alms to come the next day. On this, Bhim rejoices that Yudhisthir his brother, has conquered death! For he is sure that he will be around the next day to give. Yudhisthir gets the message.
One does not know really whether one will be there tomorrow to give!
The time to give therefore is now.


The next question is:
'How much to give?'

One recalls the famous incident from history.
Rana Pratap was reeling after defeat from the Moghals. He had lost his army, he had lost his wealth, and most important, he had lost hope, his will to fight. At that time, in his darkest hour, his erstwhile minister, Bhamasha, came seeking him and placed his entire fortune at the disposal of Rana Pratap. With this, Rana Pratap raised an army and lived to fight another day.
The answer to this question how much to give is:
"Give as much as one can!


The next question is:
'What to give?'
It is not only money that can be given away. It could be a flower or even a smile.

It is not how much one gives but how one gives that really matters. When you give a smile to a stranger that may be the only good thing received by him in days and weeks!

"You can give anything but you must give with all your heart!"
One also needs answer to this question  whom to give?
Many times we avoid giving by finding fault with the person who is seeking. However, being judgmental and rejecting a person on the presumption that he may not be the most deserving is not justified.

"Give without being judgmental!"


Next we have to answer:
'How to give?'
Coming to the manner of giving, one has to ensure that the receiver does not feel humiliated, nor the giver feels proud by giving.

In giving, follow the advice 'Let not your left hand know what your right hand gives? Charity without publicity and fanfare is the highest form of charity.'

'Give quietly!'

While giving, let not the recipient feel small or humiliated. After all, what we give never really belonged to us. We come to this world with nothing and will go with nothing. The thing gifted was only with us for a temporary period. Why then take pride in giving away something which really did not belong to us?
Give with grace and with a feeling of gratitude.


"What should one feel after giving?"
We all know the story of Eklavya. When Dronacharya asked him for his right thumb as "Guru Dakshina, he unhesitatingly cut off the thumb and gave it to Dronacharya. 
There is a little known sequel to this story.
Eklavya was asked whether he ever regretted the act of giving away his thumb. He replied, and the reply has to be believed to be true, as it was asked to him when he was dying.

His reply was "Yes! I regretted this only once in my life. It was when Pandavas were coming in to kill Dronacharya who was broken hearted on the false news of death of his son, Ashwathama, and had stopped fighting. It was then that I regretted the loss of my thumb. If the thumb was there, no one could have dared hurt my Guru?

The message to us is clear.
Give and never regret giving!

And the last question is:
'How much should we provide for our heirs?'
Ask yourself 'are we taking away from them the gift of work? - A source of happiness?
The answer is given by Warren Buffett: 
"Leave your kids enough to do anything, but not enough to do nothing!"

I would conclude by saying:
Let us learn the Art of Giving,
and quoting the Saint Kabir:
"When the wealth in the house increases, when water fills a boat, throw them out with both hands!"

This is the wise thing to do!

May be .....